Is it not the right time to practice all the things you dream about? Have you not spent the first 20 years of your life being trained and conditioned as someone’s child or student? Have you not followed all the instructions and rules set out for you? Remember those that ended up rebellious always paid the price.
The next 20 years is where we believe that we are putting into reality our own ideas and desires in life. We become someone’s mate, parent, employee; and still keep our place in society. We perform that wonderful balancing act of keeping everyone in our lives happy with our choices. Time is flying yet a voice inside us insists that we are not fulfilled at the stage we are in life. That all these choices have been for everyone else in our lives: not for us. We yearn for something more out there! Will someone think you are selfish? It all rests at the back of our mind, and starts showing up in our dreams. We try to ignore it. Yet we regret the choices we made. We cannot figure out any alternatives either.
As we go beyond our forties, we gain new confidence: the ability to assert ourselves comes to the surface. It is not always a pretty sight; and can be somewhat frightening at first. Hang in there because maturity blossoms. It is called a “Mid Life Crisis”. I like to think of it, though, as a time frame in which to create and express who you really are. The truth, and nothing but the truth, will set your mind, heart and soul free. You are no longer looking for approval. You want real friends, loving partners, and people in your life, to know that you are living your life; and not just existing.
How do you do this? How do you explore and yet fail to meet all the realistic goals of this aging process? Many of us have no one to ask; or to even bounce ideas off from. The generation gaps are too large, and the concepts of what is necessary for a solid future definitely do not match. We have to learn to share and outsource our ideas and information. Taking stock of where we are, and the directions we want to take, can reignite that excitement in our lives. Set those goals for yourself and share them with those you love; and live with. Ignore the depression stage and grasp those thoughts and dreams; and then find someone to help you turn them into reality. There are life coaches, financial advisors, therapists, friends and loved ones who will be able to guide you and encourage you on your journey.
Have the desire to enjoy every day of your life.
By Retirement Life Hub Team